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décembre 16, 2019

Feeling pressured by the student stereotypes

  • décembre 16, 2019
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“And where do you go out usually?” 

I can’t tell you how much I’ve heard this question being asked to me. I get instantly awkward and … ashamed of myself. I feel like I have to justify for not being a proper person enjoying life like anyone else (even if I don’t feel like missing out…). Having to say that I never go clubbing or I rarely go in bars is really hard when people expect you to be social no matter what because you are a student. And when you are a student, you have to go out, that’s almost written somewhere in the “student bucket list”. 

I won’t say that I’m okay with being introvert while being a student. It’s bloody hard when people expect so much of you, to fit in like everybody else. When you don’t and would rather stay in with friends with a good bottle of wine, or going to the movie, well people don’t get it. That’s the problem, isn’t it? They don’t get it and you know it. That’s why you feel even shittier about yourself because you know you don’t do what’s expected of you.

And at some point, you stop caring so much. When saying “no” to a night out feels much better than actually going and having an awful anxious time, you understand your limits and what’s good for you. That, I’m okay with. The other part where I have to justify myself for being who I am is not acceptable because there is not one bloody way to be a student while enjoying your life. Yep, not every student’s way of seeing their experience is through huge amount of alcohol and clubs. Some prefer calm environments, like-minded people, where they can recharge and have a hell of a good time. Trust me, my best memories where spend at home with friends with some good discussions and laughs! 

I’m getting more and more confident when I say that I don’t go out so much even though sometimes it’s tricky. I just know my limits, when I can push them and when I can’t. I like being who I am even if it means not getting drunk all the time like most students, I don’t actually care. The problem always will be other’s expectations and views on life and on yourself. As long as you are happy and truthful with yourself, then it’s fine, right?

I'm 24, I've got freckles (you get it now) and I'm a grumpy French, sometimes, who writes in English. I love books, cats, le barbu, pizzas and Dicaprio.

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